By Toni G. Villafuerte For most of us who grew up thinking that there are rules in love, we are swayed by the idea that if one fits in a certain type or category, then it’s DESTINY. That if you follow every rule in the book, you’re guaranteed of a very blissful and blessed love life, both rewarding and life-changing. When we were very young, our environment played a huge role in helping us realize what a relationship is all about. We base it on the things we observe from the people around us. When I was growing up, my mother had to work because we were not supported by my father financially. I hated the fact that I had to be away from her and not have a stay-at-home mom like anyone else I knew. All my friends and cousins grew up with a complete set of parents. They were loved and taken care of. They’re happy together and are present in each other’s lives. Then I thought of my first rule in relationship: YOU HAVE TO BE THERE . There was a point in my life when my mom ...